So this isn't really a blog post, but I need some advice. I was wondering, how do you know when a relationship is over for sure and how do you move past it?
I don't have much experience with relationships, but I do have one good thing going for me. It's called "my friends don't know how to pick the right guys, so i have to tell them when they're making a mistake, and they usually don't listen to me, but i always end up being right."
I've seen it again and again. If you broke up with someone, there was a reason. And unless the reason was that he wasn't sharing the cookie dough fairly, you should probably stay broken up. For at least a while. And by a while I don't mean a few months. It's not a science. You both need to grow as people before you get back together. Learn from your mistakes. It could take years. there's no real way to know. If you just pick up where you left off, you're going to be in the same toxic environment you were in before and nothing will have changed. and change is good!
obviously the "you" i'm using is a general "you" because i have no idea of the specifics of your relationship. but this is just what i've learned by careful observation. it's always easier to say this stuff when you're removed from the situation than when your directly involved. so i know how hard it is.
as for moving past it? i would say take it one day at a time. what else can you do? i can tell you just forget about him, but we know that's impossible. especially in high school where you see him everyday. moving on isn't easy, but i think you can do it. it takes a strong person, and most teenage girls just can't handle it. but i think you can.
I don't have much experience with relationships, but I do have one good thing going for me. It's called "my friends don't know how to pick the right guys, so i have to tell them when they're making a mistake, and they usually don't listen to me, but i always end up being right."
ReplyDeleteI've seen it again and again. If you broke up with someone, there was a reason. And unless the reason was that he wasn't sharing the cookie dough fairly, you should probably stay broken up. For at least a while. And by a while I don't mean a few months. It's not a science. You both need to grow as people before you get back together. Learn from your mistakes. It could take years. there's no real way to know. If you just pick up where you left off, you're going to be in the same toxic environment you were in before and nothing will have changed. and change is good!
obviously the "you" i'm using is a general "you" because i have no idea of the specifics of your relationship. but this is just what i've learned by careful observation. it's always easier to say this stuff when you're removed from the situation than when your directly involved. so i know how hard it is.
as for moving past it? i would say take it one day at a time. what else can you do? i can tell you just forget about him, but we know that's impossible. especially in high school where you see him everyday. moving on isn't easy, but i think you can do it. it takes a strong person, and most teenage girls just can't handle it. but i think you can.
I hope i helped at least a little.